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Wednesday
May232012

You Can't Beat Me: My Scars and Why I Love Them.

 

Dancing Under the Rain by Angelo González

 

Somewhere under my can’t-decide-if-it-wants-to-be-curly-or-straight brown hair, there is a scar from when a stuffed moose head fell on me as a baby.

Don’t ask. The details tend to get a bit fuzzy whenever I inquire, as is wont to do when a family story turns into myth and legend. All I know is that whenever I sit down for a hair cut, the hairdresser inevitably asks me, “So, where’d you get this scar?”

It’s fun to witness their facial expressions when I answer.

I have other scars too - a majority of them from badly-timed decisions having to do with knives. There’s a crescent moon on the pad of my left thumb where I sliced myself when I meant to slice cookie dough. On my left pointer finger is a reminder of why it’s important to use scissors - not a butter knife - to open an electronics package. (They shouldn’t make the packaging so darned difficult to open in the first place! But I digress.)

My left knee bears an ugly gash healed over from when I toppled during a campground game of pig hunt. (I was a pig. All the counselors were. Junior Highers can be vicious when there’s a prize on the line!) The shaving razor has not been kind at all to the back of my right ankle in my pursuit of smooth legs over the years. I have blocks of color leftover from lingering sunburns. On my wrists, you can see the faintest traces of lines drawn with scissors and safety pins because I thought I was all alone.

The world is sharp and painful, after all.

Needless to say, from head to toe, I have my fair share of scars, bruises, and injuries. Our skin is designed to take damage. But it doesn’t explain why we so often feel ashamed of the evidence left behind. These marks are a testament to our ability to survive the world’s inflictions - be they sinister or accidental. And yet we try so hard - as women, as humans - to cover them up or make them invisible. To pretend as if they don’t - and never did - exist.

We glorify those whose skin is smooth. And yes, even I will admit that there’s beauty to be seen in something flawless and innocent.

But not at the expense of demonizing our own scars. Each mark on my skin is a solid and firm testimony: I survived. I lived through it. I took my medicine. I’m still here today, and I’ll still be here tomorrow. You can’t beat me. I’m staying right here.

The world is sharp. But God gave us skin for a reason. It’s time to stop being so very ashamed of our scars.

But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.

~ 2 Corinthians 12:9.


What scars do you possess that you're proud of? Feel free to boast!

Friday
May182012

The Nifty List: May 18, 2012.

Welcome to my nifty list. I like lists. I like nifty things. Thus, the nifty lists were born.

 

 

  • I love homemade sugar scrub. It's super easy to make and this recipe over at Susan Tuttle's blog also includes a process to make shimmer lotion too! 

 

 

 

 

Lots of lovely, nifty things this week! Hopefully it'll give you some DIY ideas for the weekend!

Monday
May142012

Thanks, Mom.

 

0238 by Cia de Foto

My mother is better than yours. No, really. Let me count the ways! 
Granted, I don’t want to turn this into some sort of contest of My-Mom-Can-Beat-Up-Your-Mom. (That is how the playground game worked, right? I don’t remember. I was usually by the tree playing Narnia with my friends...) But today, I’d like to just list a few reasons as to why I believe know why my mom rocks harder than yours. 
  • She has always (and still does) try to instill confidence in me. Let’s admit it - there’s a reason why we call Mom when we have a seriously bad day. “What? They said that? Well, honey, they’re just jealous.” (They might not really be jealous, but it still feels really good to hear that your Mom thinks so, am I right?) 

 

  • She banished me from television when I needed grounding and swatted my behind when I deserved a swift kick in the pants. When people tell me how polite and nice I am, I don’t try fooling myself. There’s a scolding with a dose of love behind the way I put my napkin in my lap and chew with my mouth closed. (Most days...) 

 

  • She always has a band-aid. Let’s face it - Mom is always there when you fall and scrape your knee. Or, in my case, she’s always there to hold me while I sob over the latest boy that broke my porcelain heart. My Mom has perfected the art of being the human tissue - and I can only hope that I’m half as good at being a tissue for her.

 

  • My Mom reassures me that I won’t always be single. (And that even if I am, I will still rock her socks off.) ‘Nuff said there. 

 

  • Even when she doesn’t really understand, she tries to. And even if that fails miserably, she loves me through it regardless.

 

  • I was a teenage girl once. I was a nightmare, and there’s no denying it. Thank you, Mom. Just...thank you. Words can’t express the kind of terrors you had to live through to get me past that horrible phase of my life and into the calmer seas of young adulthood. (“I didn’t learn anything at school! Stop interrogating me!” )

 

  • How many times did I wake my mother up in the middle of the night with a fever or an upset stomach? And how many times did she groggily take my temperature or hold my hair out of the toilet like a saint? All of them. Mom, you deserve a million bucks for that alone.

 

  • My mom is fabulous. Her sense of style is worthy of a show on HGTV. And yet despite her amazing preferences for fashion and interior design, she allows me to indulge in my more questionable tastes. Like my phase of monochromatic black clothing in seventh grade. And that pair of boy’s gym shorts that she threatened to throw out...and yet still sits crammed in the back of my drawer for when I run out of clean pajama bottoms. 

 

  • My mother is an amazing cook. A talented chef, really. Even when all we had was a can of green beans and a bag of shredded cheese, she still managed to whip up a masterpiece meal that had my whole family grunting appreciatively through our mouthfuls of food. A silent dinner table meant a successful meal. 

 

  • She loves me no matter what. No matter what. No matter how many times I’ve snapped at her in the past and present. No matter how many questionable choices I’ve made. No matter how many times I switched my major and she wondered if I would ever graduate college.

 

So hats off to my Mom. Because she rocks. Like, hardcore. I’m sure there are a million and one reasons why you think that your mom is better than mine, and you would probably be justified in thinking so. That’s the beauty of a mother. She’s yours. And that makes her the best thing since sliced bread. 


So thanks, Mom. Thanks for being my Mom. Thank you for everything. 

 

Friday
May112012

The Nifty List: May 11, 2012.

Welcome to my nifty list. I like lists. I like nifty things. Thus, the nifty lists were born.

 

  • 750words.com: I love the idea of Julia Cameron's morning pages, but I don't really like writing journal entries out long-hand. This website helps keep me on track with completing my morning pages everyday, but I don't have to get hand cramps in the process. Wheeeee! 

 

  • DashingDish.com: I don't think there's a single recipe on this website that I don't want to recreate myself. Katie is amazing and uplifting - and her protein shake recipe has changed my life. (My life! MY LIFE! I'm not even exaggerating! Go now!) 

 

 

  • This post from Writing Our Way Home talks about using our best china now, instead of saving it for good (as my grandmama likes to say). Sometimes there's nothing wrong with indulging now, and it feels really flippin' good too! 

 

 

  • Looks like I'm not the only one learning major lessons about letting things go! Check this amazing post over at Roots of She about getting rid of thoughts and feelings that don't serve you. It's so nice to know I'm not the only person in the history of humanity who's learning this lesson!

 

Have a GREAT weekend. <3

 

Friday
May042012

Changes: A cautious firstborn's perspective.

 

 Macy's by vonSchnauzer

 

The furniture felt too big.

I am not a creature who adores change. I would much rather wallow in my habits - which are serving me just fine, thank you - than submit to something unexpected and outside of my control. I am a classic firstborn who would very much like to be careful, measured, and precise. (What I would like to be, of course, is a great deal different than how I actually am. It’s not my fault that your unplanned plans are throwing me out of balance!) I find great solace and comfort in planning my road trip stops ahead of time, instead of simply going with the flow and letting the car roam wherever it pleases. It took me years to learn how to ride a bicycle, because I didn’t like the out-of-control feeling it gave me. Roller coasters are a big no-no.

Being unpredictable is just not my thingy-thang, if you get what I mean.

Which is why furniture that felt a little too big for my room was kind of...overwhelming, shall we say? It crowded most of my older belongings out, pushing in where it wasn’t wanted and sending me into a mini spiral of panic.

New furniture was a good idea, of course. (My mom’s idea. She’s brilliant, that one.) I’m a big girl now. I need big girl things. But that didn’t mean adapting to the new scenery was going to be easy for someone like me, who needs plenty of time to plan and visualize before I can slowly and surely adapt my life to a new big thing.

Which left me standing in the middle (very small), empty space of my room, gazing at my new furniture as it crowded everything else out. My mother, who knows me so well, reassured me that this was for the best. That this would make the space feel like mine, instead of merely feeling as if I’m usurping someone else’s territory.

She was right, of course. (Yes, Mom, you’re always right. I realized in college how brilliant you are.) After a few days, I began to realize that this new, big furniture had helped me get rid of the things that I really didn’t need anymore. I’m starting to realize that peeling back bits and pieces of my life that I don’t need can be wildly refreshing. Enlightening. Uplifting, even.

I’m getting rid of the “fun time” activities that are no longer fun. TV shows I no longer care about. Books I no longer read. (Oh yes, I spent a whole Sunday afternoon cleaning my bookshelves of books that just don’t sing to me anymore - which is a big deal if you know my extended love affair with books. I gave them to someone special, who I know will treat them right.)

Slowly but surely, I’m giving up old passions to make room for new obsessions that will no doubt come flooding in when there’s an empty space to fill. And I have absolutely no doubt that they will be too big. That they’ll make me cringe and chew my nails and wring my hands, because that’s what I do when something new and big and scary rushes into my life.

But they will gradually start to crowd out the less important things. And I will stare and tilt my head and say, Huh. I guess I had room after all.

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Keep your eyes peeled for some changes on the site if you’re keen. We’re going to get all wild up in this joint. We’re going to (gasp) change some things. We’re going to make some space and shave off the excess and create some room for magic to occur.

And it’s going to be absolutely rad.

 

Huh. I guess I had room after all.